You might think you need to bend over backward to get your crush's attention. While there's no magic spell to make someone fall head over heels for you, you can become a more captivating person by trying new things, surrounding yourself with interesting people, and engaging in unique conversations. Be confident, as confidence also adds to your charm.
Catch Your Crush's Attention
Step 1. Spend time with interesting people.
Spend time with interesting people. Think about who in your circle acts spontaneously, has a great sense of humor, or always has a wild story to tell. Interact with such individuals in the presence of your crush, allowing them to showcase your fun or spontaneous side.
- Moreover, friends influence our behavior, so surrounding yourself with interesting people can help you become more interesting too.
Step 2. Flirt using eye contact, touches, and gentle teasing.
Flirt using eye contact, light touches, and playful teasing. Flirting can add a lot of fun to your interaction with your crush, making you more appealing. Establish eye contact, lightly touch their hand, and try teasing them playfully.
- You might say something like, "You better give it your all in gym class because I'm going to school you in basketball."
- Tease lightly and playfully. Avoid hurting your crush's feelings.
Step 3. Play hard to get a little.
Play hard to get a little. Pay attention to your crush, but don't overdo it. Always give them personal space. Spend time having fun conversations with other people in the room. This will make you more mysterious.
Step 4. Try new activities or hobbies.
Try new activities or hobbies. Show some adventurous spirit! Join a new school club, try a different sport, or take up a new exciting hobby. By trying new things, you'll appear more interesting, and it will also give you plenty of conversation topics.
- Learn to skateboard, join the cheerleading squad, or start a blog.
Step 5. Smile.
Smile. Even if you're nervous, a smile can make you appear more attractive and confident, helping you catch your crush's attention. So next time, show off your bright smile in their presence.
Step 6. Join a club with this guy or participate in the same activities.
Join a club with this guy or participate in the same activities. Having common interests will automatically make you more interesting in your crush's eyes. If he's part of a club or does something you think is cool, join in! As a bonus, you’ll get to spend more time together.
- Make sure the guy isn’t the only reason you’re joining the club. Choose a club or activity that genuinely interests you.
Step 7. Compliment him.
Compliment him. When you notice something you like about your crush or something that impresses you, let him know. People love receiving compliments, so this will definitely grab your crush's attention.
- You could say, "Your haircut looks amazing," or, "You really play the piano well."
- Be sincere but don’t overdo the praise. Forced compliments will come across as insincere.
Engage in Captivating Conversations
Step 1. Find out what he likes and talk about it.
Find out what he likes and talk about it. The best way to seem appealing is to show interest in your crush's hobbies. Talk to his friends to learn what he enjoys, or simply ask him directly. Then discuss it!
- If you know that he’s a huge basketball fan, watch a game. Then ask for his opinion on the match. It’s an interesting yet easy conversation starter!
- If you're trying to figure out the interests of the person you like, you could ask, "What do you love to do on weekends?" or, "What's your favorite TV show?"
Step 2. Prepare some good stories to share.
Prepare some good stories to share. Keep them handy for when you’re talking to your crush. Choose stories that might relate to his interests. If this guy loves skiing and you have a funny story about your first attempt at skiing, share it.
Step 3. Change the topic if he seems bored.
Change the topic if he seems bored. If the guy yawns, looks away, or doesn’t ask any questions, he might be bored with the topic. Don’t take it personally—everyone has different interests. Switch to a new topic or ask him a personal question to liven up the conversation.
- Suppose you’re talking about your love for stamp collecting and the guy looks a bit distracted. You could ask, "Do you have any hobbies?"
Step 4. Be a good listener.
Be a good listener. Being interesting doesn’t mean you have to talk non-stop. In fact, listening carefully is also important, so let the guy get a word in.
- Try to show genuine interest in what your conversation partner is saying. This will make it much easier to listen.
- Show your crush that you are listening by nodding, saying "yes" or "mmm," and paraphrasing what he says.
Step 5. Ask open-ended questions.
Ask open-ended questions. Good questions can lead to more interesting conversations, making you seem more interesting too. Ask the guy open-ended questions that can't be answered with just "yes" or "no."
- If you’re talking about summer vacation, you might ask a fun question: "What's the craziest thing that happened to you during summer break?"
- Also, ask follow-up questions. If the guy starts sharing a story about meeting his favorite celebrity, you could ask, "Did she look like she does in the movies?"
Step 6. Be expressive during conversations.
Be expressive during conversations. When interacting with your crush or a group of friends in his presence, don’t be afraid to show emotion. Speak with enthusiasm and gesture. This will automatically make you seem more attractive.
- Don’t go overboard by speaking loudly or wildly gesticulating. Do what feels natural.
Be Confident
Step 1. Don’t worry about what others think.
Don’t worry about what others think. The most interesting people are those who do their thing without caring about other people's opinions. Embrace your unique quirks and try to feel comfortable being yourself.
- Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to impress the guy. Confidence in yourself is attractive!
Step 2. Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and confident.
Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and confident. Maybe you feel like a million bucks in your favorite jumpsuit or new sundress. The confidence you gain from wearing your favorite outfits can make you more appealing in your crush's eyes.
- You don’t have to wear makeup, but don’t hesitate to use a little to boost your confidence.
Step 3. Relax and be yourself.
Relax and be yourself. It’s completely normal to feel nervous around your crush, but try to relax and be yourself. Excessive anxiety can hinder your ability to show him how amazing you are. Take a few deep breaths and remember that he’s probably feeling nervous too.
- To calm down, take slow, deep breaths using your diaphragm rather than your chest.
- Don’t try to ignore your nerves. Acknowledge that you’re nervous instead of criticizing yourself for it. Remember, it’s a perfectly normal reaction to being around an incredibly cute guy.
Step 4. Give yourself a pep talk.
Give yourself a pep talk. Self-confidence will make you more attractive and interesting, so give yourself a motivational speech when you're near your crush to boost your spirits and calm your nerves.
- Say to yourself, "You are amazing. You can totally handle being around him."
