Have you ever wished to look elegant but didn't know how to do it? Learn from the master and turn the page. You can't just act aristocratic; you need to embody it, or you'll come off as a phony. To look aristocratic, gender doesn't matter; you need money, proper behavior, and an aristocratic demeanor.
Part 1
Step 1: Expand Your Horizons!
Expand your horizons! This is how you will start to appeal to everyone, and perhaps they will even call you "aristocratic."
Step 2: Maintain Personal Hygiene.
Maintain personal hygiene. If you have tangled, dirty hair, yellow teeth with bits of food stuck in them, and you smell of sweat, you won't be able to become elegant until you address these flaws.
Step 3: Style is Key.
Style is key. Regardless of personal hygiene, you should dress stylishly/aristocratically. T-shirts and sweatpants won't do. At the very least, polo shirts and plaid shorts or designer items are acceptable. If you can't afford a lot of designer pieces, you can shop for items from lesser-known designers, such as those by Isaac Mizrahi, Massimo, etc. They are slightly cheaper but will suit you well.
Step 4: Find a Clean and Elegant Look.
Find a clean and elegant look. The right appearance is already half the battle. Wear clothing and accessories that fit your body, and never wear anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Remember, modesty is key to earning the respect of others. A little boldness can be fashionable, but true gentlemen value modesty over overt displays.
Step 5: Be Sociable.
Be sociable. A serious, boring person is as aristocratic as a piece of wood. Simply charming. Always be enchanting and likable towards those you wish to befriend.
Step 6: Keep Some Comments Ready for Insults.
Keep some comments ready to respond to insults. If you can't think of anything, remember that insults should depend on the person. Always be polite to those around you, unless you are set against them.
Step 7: Don't Insult, Gossip, or Backbite.
Don't insult, gossip, or backbite. When necessary, express your opinion – constructively and cautiously. This will give your audience a chance to listen attentively to what you say.
Step 8: Dress with Taste.
Dress with taste. Dress modestly and avoid tasteless items. Deep necklines, overly short skirts, crop tops, and revealing clothing show that a girl does not respect herself and her body. T-shirts with inappropriate phrases, logos, and sexual innuendos may convey that a girl is desperately seeking attention. Aristocracy does not desperately seek attention.
Step 9: Never Brag.
Never brag. It irritates others, and you might lose friends because of it.
Step 10: Know How to Keep Secrets and Share Them Only with a Close Circle of Friends.
Know how to keep secrets and share them only with a close circle of friends. Even if you trust someone, you never know if they might suddenly reveal your secret.
Step 11: BE PLEASANT IN COMMUNICATION!
BE PLEASANT IN COMMUNICATION! This may not be easy, but remember that you want to be aristocratic, not a snob. Besides, snobs don't have as good a social circle as aristocrats.
Step 12: Know the Rules of Etiquette.
Know the rules of etiquette. This is very important. Aristocratic people have manners and know the boundaries of human relationships. They know you shouldn't step on someone’s foot, but they also know how to respond if someone does step on theirs. Manners are the currency of aristocratic individuals, and the more you know about them, the better. Start with Emily Post if you don't know anything yet.
Step 13: Try Not to Be Materialistic.
Try not to be materialistic. Aristocratic people are not materialists – they easily become ordinary. Aristocratic individuals seek style and quality, whether it’s a handbag, a home, or a car. Buy the best you can afford and don't waste money on trinkets.
Step 14: Take Care of Your Health.
Take care of your health. The same applies to your body – buy quality food. Aristocratic people respect themselves.
Step 15: Exercise Regularly – Choose Activities That Suit You, Rather Than Just Chasing Trends.
Exercise regularly – choose activities that suit you, rather than just chasing trends. Never overeat or drink too much. Aristocratic individuals know their limits and respect them; moreover, respect in the eyes of others is very important for aristocratic people.
Step 16: Observe Aristocratic Individuals You Admire.
Observe aristocratic individuals you admire. Don't copy them entirely, but let their style, behavior, and lifestyle influence you. This way, you can build a foundation to become independent and self-sufficient.
Step 17: Be Educated and Stay Informed About Current Events.
Be educated and stay informed about current events. It wouldn't hurt to become politically, culturally, and religiously aware. Even the most basic knowledge can save a person from shame and awkward situations. If you know in advance that you will spend time with someone educated in an unfamiliar field, it's good to delve into that topic to avoid awkward moments.
Step 18: Don't Fear Personal Development.
Don't fear personal development. Don't berate yourself, but be open to creative changes. Change is inevitable in your world. Be a positive and adaptable person, and try to show others this path. Don't hide from life; face it head-on, and others will instinctively recognize that you are someone whose opinion matters.
Step 19: Strive for Knowledge.
Strive for knowledge. No matter how difficult it may be to heed advice from others, sometimes it's a necessary step. Regardless of your age or abilities, allow yourself to learn from the mistakes and achievements of those older or more experienced than you. You will earn their goodwill, and they will share their wisdom or offer guidance.
Step 20: Be a Responsible Person.
Be a responsible person. Aristocratic women leave the places they visit in the same condition they found them. Unless they are in a restaurant where the staff is responsible for cleaning, stylish and aristocratic individuals will clean up after themselves and won't wait for someone else to do it. When others do favors for them, arrogant and spoiled individuals take it for granted and stay silent, while aristocratic and well-mannered individuals notice and thank them for their help. Also, if you drop a silver utensil, don’t expect the waitress to pick it up and replace it with a clean one. Just pick it up yourself and set it aside. If you want or need a clean one, politely ask for a new utensil.
Step 21: Good Grades.
Good grades. This reinforces the points of "strive for knowledge," "don't fear personal development," and "be educated and stay informed about current events." However, it’s also aristocratic to receive poor grades if at some point you spent study time on worthy relaxation. But be cautious – this can also spoil you. Such spoiled behavior can quickly rid you of your aristocracy.
Step 22: No (or Almost No) Television and Gossip Columns.
No (or almost no) television and gossip columns. It’s important to understand modern culture, but knowledge of gossip and rumors about famous people only affirms that you are far from aristocratic and wasted time reading articles.
Step 23: Clearly Express Your Thoughts.
Clearly express your thoughts. Aristocratic individuals have a rich vocabulary and know how to use it. However, they never use too many unnecessary words in their sentences.
Step 24: Be Tactful.
Be tactful. Truly aristocratic individuals cannot even bear the thought of causing inconvenience to another person, hurting them, interrupting someone, or getting in someone’s way. Aristocratic individuals try to mind their own business and attempt to smooth over rough patches in uncomfortable social situations. Truly aristocratic individuals are polite and courteous to everyone, whether it's an executive, a mail carrier, or a janitor. Aristocratic individuals know others' names and use them when greeting acquaintances, whether it’s a doorman, a security guard, or the boss’s wife. Aristocratic individuals treat everyone the same – politely and respectfully.
