Tinder is a social networking app that connects you with people who liked your profile. It features a chat function that allows you to exchange messages with your matches, opening up endless possibilities for flirting. Who knows, if your messages hit the mark, you might be able to meet them in person. Read on to learn how to get started.
Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Download Tinder and Choose Your Preferences.
Download Tinder and select your preferences. To start flirting with people on Tinder, you’ll need to install the app and begin searching for matches among other users. Matches are essential for starting a chat, so make sure you take the time to create an interesting profile and begin your search for a potential partner.
- Use this guide for detailed instructions on installing the app and creating a complete profile.
- Tinder is available for free on iOS and Android and requires a Facebook profile.
Step 2. Use Good Profile Pictures.
Use good profile pictures. You should utilize all available types of your photos. Make sure you don’t post pictures with the opposite sex, with children, or group photos as they might not be the best choice.
- Smile in your photos!
Step 3. Start the Conversation.
Start the conversation. You can chat with those you’ve marked as ‘Liked’ and who have also liked you back. Open the Matches menu and click on one of your choices to open the chat window.
- Wait about a day after the match before starting the conversation.
- Take the initiative in the conversation. This will show your confidence and readiness to take charge.
- Don’t get discouraged if you don’t receive a reply. Not every match will respond to your message. Brush off the unsuccessful attempt and try again with another user.
Step 4. Be Original with Your Opening Lines.
Be original with your opening lines. Try to avoid simple “Hi” or “Hello” as they are likely to turn off most users you’re chatting with. Carefully review the profile and pictures of the user you’re interested in to find an interesting hook. For example, if you see a guy in a photo with a surfboard, ask him about his favorite surfing spots.
- Always make sure your grammar and spelling are correct, especially when you’re just starting to chat with someone new. Remember, first impressions are the strongest!
Step 5. Ask Questions.
Ask questions. Try to ask more questions to get to know the person you’re chatting with better. What are their hobbies, interests, etc.? Avoid questions that may be too personal.
- Keep it natural and casual. Chat as if you’re talking to a friend you’ve known for years. Stay calm and don’t lose your composure.
Beginning to Flirt
Step 1. Capture Their Attention.
Capture their attention. Once you’ve grabbed the interest of the user you like and know a little about them, you should understand how to maintain that interest in you.
- Don’t be afraid to give compliments. Even if you don’t know the person very well yet, throw in compliments throughout the conversation. A simple “I love talking to you” can be a great start.
- Be cautious when complimenting their appearance. Try to compliment something that isn’t directly related to their body.
- Tease each other. Teasing is a fun way to flirt. You can try giving them a silly nickname or playfully tease them about silly things they’ve done.
- Always keep the teasing light and make sure to clearly indicate that you’re joking. A smiley face at the end of a sentence can help, but guys should avoid using too many emoticons. [2] X Source
Step 2. Avoid Extremes.
Avoid extremes. Tinder is designed for fun and casual conversation. Using overly crude or vulgar phrases will lead to a loss of interest from your match and will ruin your chances of continuing to flirt in the future. Aim to stay positive and save the more serious phrases for later conversations.
Step 3. Don’t Talk Too Much About Yourself.
Don’t talk too much about yourself. This will lead your match to quickly lose interest. Instead, encourage them to talk more about themselves. You can occasionally insert phrases about yourself during the conversation.
- Make sure the topic of conversation you choose is also interesting to your match. You can tell by how they respond. If you notice that they don’t seem very interested in continuing that topic, switch to another one immediately (preferably do this smoothly and logically).
Continuing the Relationship
Step 1. Always Leave Something Unsaid.
Always leave something unsaid. If you’ve started the conversation strongly, you should end it strongly as well. Know when to stop chatting. You can’t keep the conversation going forever. There will always come a time when there’s nothing left to say.
- When you feel like you’re both struggling to keep the conversation going, end it promptly.
- Gauge their response. Try to understand if they like you or not. If they’re giving short responses, it’s likely they’re not interested in flirting with you, and it would be best to wrap up the conversation.
- Always arrange a time for your next chat before ending the current one. Phrases like “Text me sometime” or “Let’s talk again tomorrow” work best.
- Don’t just say “Goodbye.” Tell your match why you’re leaving and what you’ll be doing.
- If you plan to meet up with your match, don’t hesitate to tell them you’re looking forward to it.
- Avoid awkward goodbyes. Let them know you had fun and enjoyed talking to them. Keep it simple and casual.
Step 2. Get Their Phone Number.
Get their phone number. Many Tinder users don’t want to continue chatting for too long as it feels too impersonal. If you enjoy flirting, ask for your match's phone number to make your communication more personal. Hearing their voice can be very important for deepening the connection.
Step 3. Set Up a Date.
Set up a date. Tinder is also a sort of matchmaking service, and many people look forward to the opportunity to meet the person on the other end of the chat. If things are going well for both of you, you owe it to each other to meet at least once to see where it goes.
- Choose a safe place where you both will feel comfortable.
- Avoid the classic first date scenario of “movie and dinner.” Instead, meet for lunch or grab a drink at a bar to see how the conversation flows. Refer to this guide for more tips on a successful first date.
